Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Losing Yourself to Find Yourself, by David C.

I have considered myself busy most of my adult life. Busy from the time I graduated high school right up to when I moved to Taiwan. I worried a lot about things like personal problems, relationships, money, etc. 

Shang Longrik Gyatso Rinpoche Students
Reflections by David C, USA

Furthermore, I constantly had a low state of energy and I never felt like doing anything. To recall something my teacher, Shang Longrik Gyatso Rinpoche, once said, “Too many people spend their entire lives in a bustling state, and yet their problems are never solved.” I think for me, being constantly preoccupied with my problems is... exhausting. How can one feel at ease when all they see are the things that disturb them?

The point is, you can't. For example, I think I've struggled with personal relationships and social situations. Upon asking Rinpoche for advice, he told me to help with the various humanitarian and Dharma projects under his non-profit organization. I had to set in and work in groups, assign tasks and carry out others given to me, putting me in situations in which I did not naturally feel comfortable.

What I get out of that group work, though, is that I can’t constantly think about myself or my own problems. My focus is on helping a group of individuals. I have to constantly weigh their needs and feelings. Moreover, it is an excellent opportunity to practice teamwork and lower one’s own opinions and ideas at times for the sake of team unity and harmony.

When you busy yourself with other peoples needs and problems your own issues fall to the wayside and consequently seem less important. It doesn't mean you've necessarily solved your problems, but worrying about someone else's puts yours in better perspective.

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